Many wives wonder why do men have affairs. The reasons for a man cheating are as varied as the men themselves. If you catch these signals in your husband you may know in time how to stop an affair. While a man's decision to be unfaithful is on his shoulders, usually there are things that the wife can do to keep him from wanting to stray.
When you know what to look for, it is easier to answer the question "is my husband having an affair?" The following reasons are generally good indicators that your spouse is going to cheat.
Reason #1: Boredom
It may sound so simplistic it is insulting, but often men will have an affair because they are bored. It also involves that innate primal urge in men that loves the thrill of the chase. An affair is definitely a way for a man to get some excitement in his life.
Reason #2: They want sexual variety
Wanting sexual variety could be related to boredom, but not always. He may not be bored in other areas of his life, but just wants to experience something different sexually. A new partner may be more open to experimenting than he feels his wife would be. Or he just craves the newness and excitement a new person will bring.
Reason #3: He needs a boost to the ego and to improve his self-esteem
Even if he doesn't doubt that his wife loves him and finds him attractive, a man may still feel the need to prove that other women find him sexy and enticing. Though if he isn't even certain that his wife is physically attracted to him anymore he may be more vulnerable to boosting his ego in the arms of another woman. Men want to know that many women desire them. In other words, he wants to prove that he's still "got it" and is "hot stuff".
Reason #4: He wants to feel needed and desired
In many ways this is similar to reason 3, but there is a distinction. If his wife constantly denies him sex, he may look elsewhere to fulfill his sexual needs. Especially if he feels his wife no longer wants him sexually. Another angle to this may not be sexual. If a man is feeling that his wife can easily live without him and can handle everything on her own, he may seek out someone who makes him feel needed and useful.
Reason #5: Someone offered (also known as opportunistic sex)
A man could have zero intentions or thoughts of having an affair...until the chance to have one arises. Sadly some men will end up cheating because they can and someone came on to them. This is perhaps one of the scariest reasons for wives - thinking that their husbands will cheat, not because they are unhappy in their marriage, but because he is given the opportunity. Of course, many men are able to resist temptation as it arises. Unfortunately, other men are not as strong.
These are just a few of the reasons that address why do men have affairs. One of the most important reasons is something that can be addressed by the wife, if caught in time. To learn what that is go to http://fix-mymarriage.info/top-reason-men-may-cheat
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